Showing posts with label relationship problems. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationship problems. Show all posts

Sunday, April 4, 2021

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater: 4 Reasons Why Men Cheat

You may think you're dating a  fantastic guy until you find out that he's a cheating scumbag! 

Why did he cheat? Being beautiful and having a wonderful personality will not prevent him from cheating. Try not to blame yourself when your partner cheats, even if you're doing everything to please him. No matter what you do or how you look, you won't be able to stop him from cheating or staring at other women when you go out. 

Statistically, more men are known for having the propensity to cheat. It is known that 20 to 80 percent of men will have the incline to cheat. Why do they engage in this behavior? Here are 4 common reasons why men cheat.

1. They're Not Mature

Serial cheaters have the reputation for being emotionally immature and they could also be self-centered. They might also have a lack of self-control and unable to discuss their feelings with their partners. These are critical factors that will prevent them from remaining faithful in a relationship or marriage.

2.  Depression and Anxiety

Men struggling with depression and anxiety have the propensity to cheat on their partners. Cheating is a way for them to get relief from the mental issues they're dealing with.

3. They're No Longer in Love With You

 If a man is no longer in love with you, he will feel the need to cheat. He could also feel unfulfilled with the relationship he has with you. Your man could be in a situation where he feels stuck with you and unable to end the relationship. 

4. They Love the Excitement and Chase

Men in general love to experience the excitement of chasing women. If they see a woman they like, they will normally want to explore that feeling. They might also love the challenge of getting women to like them.

Is Your Man Faithful?

As you can see, men cheat for many reasons. So, even if you think you're in a great relationship, you may have to deal with this problem and determine the right steps you should take.

Some men are not wired to be monogamous. They will drain the life and self-esteem out of you if you allow it. Never force yourself to remain in an unhealthy relationship. Protect your energy and mentality by trying to connect with someone who knows how to treat you with respect.

Friday, April 2, 2021

You Don’t Have to Look Like a Goddess to Prevent Him From Cheating

"Oh wow! My babe had her hair and nails done. She does everything for me, so I won't cheat. I'll stay faithful." Do men think this way?

Not! 

Taking pride in your appearance is important, but this does not prevent a dog from being a dog.  So, let's stop blaming the woman when a guy cheats. A guy's infidelity is a reflection of his lack of discipline, self-control, as well as his sense of entitlement. Did you know that some men feel they're entitled to multiple women?

Men will do whatever they want to do. They cheat because they want to! Period.

1.Your beauty, fancy clothes, loyalty, and submission won't prevent him from cheating.

2. Your femininity will not stop a man who is willing to cheat.

3. Cooking, cleaning, or being his slave won't prevent him from cheating.  

4. Not wearing makeup and being religious won't stop him from cheating.

5. Getting pregnant and having children won't prevent cheating.

There's nothing you can do to prevent a man from stepping out. However, you DO have the power to decide whether to leave or stay in the relationship. Step into your power, girl. 

If your boyfriend is cheating, I would suggest that you make a clean break from your relationship. When you're dating, you have the convenience to move forward without the stress factors of being attached to the man through marriage, a baby, or connected to a man financially or emotionally. 

However, when you're married, there are more things at stake. Some of these may include a house, money, car etc. This makes it more difficult for some married women to walk away. They will usually feel stuck.

You will feel pain from the relationship you had with your boyfriend, but life goes on. When you're just dating, you have the freedom to restart your whole life. So, there's no need for you to put up with a cheating boyfriend. It's fun to date and interacting with different people. You don't have to feel stuck with someone who's disrespecting you. If he's lying or cheating, you can make a hasty exit! You have control of your dating life.

This allows you to open up your options, to find out things about the man you're dating. This helps you to identify red flags before you become intimate or too invested in the relationship. 

Dating gives you the convenience to learn as much as you can about his past relationships, do background checks, and avoid men with a history of cheating. You get to narrow down your choices and to decide which man you should continue dating.

Whether dating or married, I would encourage every woman to step away from a cheating or abusive partner. NEVER be a doormat to a man.  He's  not worth the stress and pains. I would offer the advice of loving yourself, healing from your traumas, and living for yourself during and after a relationship.

Thursday, April 1, 2021

When Men Cheat 

Do you have suspicions that your man is cheating on you? Once a man cheats, you could have a hard time focusing on your relationship and moving forward. His cheating is an issue that could also cause you to end the relationship. I support women who make this decision. 

If my man is cheating, it will be difficult for me to move past his infidelity. 

If he's easily tempted by other women, I would not feel comfortable being with him. Even if I forgave him for cheating, the problem could still persist. In some cases, counseling or therapy might not be helpful. Yes, professional help is beneficial for some couples. However, if a man is not willing to change his cheating ways, then professional counseling may not be the best remedy. There's nothing you can do to restore your original love.

Saturday, March 27, 2021

How to Get Over Your Ex Boyfriend

Did your partner break up with you? Breaking up with your boyfriend can be a tough and stressful situation, especially if you were developing feelings for him. You may also dread the thought of having to continue dating other men. However, if your boyfriend no longer wants to continue with the relationship, you have no choice but to let him go.

How can you get over your ex-boyfriend? Are you scared of letting go? Keep reading to learn the most effective ways for you to adjust to being single again. 

Don't blame yourself

Never blame yourself for the end of your relationship. Break-ups occur for all types of reasons. Even if you and your boyfriend try to work things out, the relationship might still come to an end. 

Get Support from Friends

When you're feeling hurt, angry, and depressed, you need support from your friends. You need your close friends nearby to talk to or to lean on for support. You'll need your friends and family to help you get over your breakup. They should always be around you to help you take your mind off the stress you're feeling.

Release Your Pain

Don't keep your pains bottled up inside. This makes it more difficult for you to get over your breakup. Don't be afraid to express your emotions when the pain is too much for you to bear. 

Start a Hobby

Find a new hobby that brings you joy and helps you to feel good about yourself. You can take a dance class, start a podcast, join a martial arts class or an art class. There are so many productive hobbies that you can take up whenever you have some extra time. After a painful breakup, hobbies can help you to stay distracted.

Getting over a man you love takes time, so don't try to force yourself to jump back into another relationship. You need lots of time to heal, to get over your hurt, and to balance your mind. Trying different techniques is very beneficial to your healing process and may help you to be a better, happier person.

Wednesday, March 24, 2021

Dale and Clare are Back Together!

Remember Clare Crawley from The Bachelorette? Well, allegedly, Clare Crawley and Dale Moss are back together. Wow, I certainly didn't see this coming. I thought this couple had broken up for good.

Sources claim that Dale and Clare are once again engaged after Clare's birthday weekend celebration. So, this is good news for all you Clare Crawley fans. I admire them for giving their relationsip a second shot. I wish them the best.

Click here to watch this video about Clare and Dale getting back together.

Monday, February 22, 2021

What Does It Mean When a Man Wants Space?

What Does It Mean When a Man Wants Space? This could be something you fear when you're dating a guy you like or someone you see yourself marrying in the future.

During your relationship, your man might tell you that he wants space. You could be wondering if he feels this way because of something you did or said. You could also feel heartbroken that your relationship is coming to an end. Keep in mind, hearing this news does not always mean that he's breaking up with you.

He could want space because he's feeling conflicted about his emotions and does not know how to communicate with you. He could also need space to recharge the relationship he has with you. 

What is the right way for you to react after hearing this news? Keep reading to learn what you should do when your man tells you he wants space.

Don't Argue With Him

It can be hurtful and painful when your man wants space. Your pain might even turn to anger if you feel your man is trying to break up with you. Try not to freak out or start an argument with him. He could be feeling overwhelmed or scared to express his real feelings. Arguing or pleading with him might not be enough for him to change his mind.

Give Him Space

The only way for you to deal with this situation is to give him his space. Respecting his wishes by staying away could be the best solution for you to save your relationship.This is also a way for you to not seem too clingy or desperate. If he feels that creating distance between the two of you is the right thing then you should agree to this request. Remember, it is normal for people to want to be on their own for a while. So, try not to feel insulted. Later on, he might be willing to explain his feelings to you and let you know if he's ready to continue with your relationship. 

Focus On Yourself

Don't be too stressed when you're away from your man. You should avoid thinking that you can't be happy when you're not with your man. 

The truth is, you can continue to have good relationships with other people you have in your life. So, there is no need for you to feel sad or depressed that you're not with your man. Make a list of the fun things that you can do with other people. Whether you're away from your boyfriend for a week, two weeks, or longer, you'll have the chance to participate in fun activities that you enjoy.  During your free time, you can spend quality time with your friends at the movies, gym, mall, and other fun places that you like to visit.

Traveling is also another fun activity that you can do with your friends. Fun activities pass the time and help you to keep your mind off the problems you're having with your man. Having a good social life with people you love is good for your mental health. It can also help to increase your happiness and quality of life. 

Be Optimistic

Stop  thinking that your man wants to break up with you. Instead, you should try to be optimistic and focus on the good times you had with your man. Don't think that separation from him is the end of the world. This could be a minor phase.

Respect His Wishes and Try to Control Your Emotions

Your man wanting space can be a difficult situation. Knowing that the man you care about with all your heart and soul wants to be away from you can even affect your self-esteem. 

Distance could be the most effective solution for you both to  fix the cracks in your relationship. After a certain time when you're apart, you might have the chance to rekindle the romance that you have with your boyfriend.

Saturday, February 20, 2021

Ladies, How Long Would You Wait for a Proposal? 

Ladies, How Long Would You Wait for a Proposal? 

This is a common question that I come across all the time online. My answer is, you should wait at least one year and eight months to determine if the man you're with is worthy of your time. I've also known people to live many years together without being married. You should keep in mind that every relationship is different and couples will have their own reasons for wanting to get married or to live together without marriage.

Mind you, some men usually propose within six months or sooner. 

Keep reading to determine how long you should wait for your man to pop the big question.

Have a Discussion

Is your man telling you that he wants to be with you forever? You should be certain that your man is not stringing you along and making you waste your precious time. You and he should be on the same page.

The waiting game can cause you to feel stressed out and this could also affect the health of your relationship. So, you should have this discussion with your man. This is the easiest way for you to know what his intentions are. Your man should be ready to be open and honest with you. He should also show interest in making plans with you. Make a note of the way he responds to your questions and if he seems eager to put a ring on your finger.

Think About Your Age

Would you love to have children and want to be married before starting a family? Your age is an important factor for you to consider. If you're in your thirties, you could feel the strong urge to get married, have children, and live a happy life. You don't want to waste your reproductive years with a man whose goals are not aligned with yours. So, if your mindset is to get married and have children while you're still fertile, you should give your man a timeline to propose. It's not fair for you to be stuck with a man for 10 years or longer without a ring on your finger. 

Get to Know Each Other

Waiting at least a year or longer should give you enough time to learn more about your man. This gives you enough time to learn about each other's goals, values, beliefs, and background. If you're a good judge of character, you will have a good feeling that he's the ideal man you want in your life. The longer you spend with each other, the easier it is for him to feel encouraged to propose to you.

Don't Try to Change Him

Is your man marriage-minded? Don't try to change your man's mindset if he doesn't have the intention of marrying you. You should get with a man who wants the same things that you desire. If your man does not show any signs of wanting to marry, you should end the relationship.

Is He Mr. Right?

So, ladies how long would you wait for a proposal? Men will waste  your time if you allow it. Putting a ring on your finger should not be an issue for your man. A man always knows if you're wife material or someone they want to use and discard later on.

Your man should be excited to propose to you if he values your company and can't live without you. You may need to think about moving on if he's dragging his feet or showing signs of not being committed to you. Remember ladies, you're the prize and should be treated like one.

Please leave comments. I would love to hear your feedback on this important topic. 

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